How to Create a Focused Family Life and Live with Purpose
Some of the most successful people, including Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, and Steve Jobs, have one thing in common: they understood the importance of focus. So, why should we as mothers, not apply the same strategies to our own lives? If we focus our efforts on what is important to us personally and for our families, we can have healthier and more fulfilling lives, and who would not like to strive for that?
So what does it mean to be focused?
It means that you are clear about what’s best for you and your family, and you let go of other distractions that come your way. By prioritizing, you put your energy into what’s important to you. As the saying goes, “Energy flows where the attention goes.”
It means that you need to learn to say no? Yes, that is a hard one for so many, and I will discuss this in another post.
It means that you need to get clear on your core values and what you want out of life. Not being aligned leads you to feel disconnected and disappointed. On the other hand, if you are aligned, you will feel fulfilled and authentic. You can understand what motivates you, and it will also help you surround yourself with the people that support you and let go of others that are not.
Here is a link to a values assessment:
https://www.valuescentre.com/toolsassessments/pva/, but I prefer to ask myself this
question, “What’s most important to me in life and why?” I lead my clients through
various activities, but this one is pretty easy to do yourself.
That also means that you and your partner need to see eye to eye in your life direction. What do you want for yourself, as a couple, and for your family? Do you have similar core values? Have a dialogue and share your hopes and dreams and find a path that works best for both of you and your family. Take time to draft a family vision and share it with your children. When everyone knows what’s important in a family, there is more structure and fewer misunderstandings. If your children know how much you love your career and how important it is for you to be there for them and have a successful career, they will be your biggest cheerleaders.
What are the benefits of being focused?
Everyone knows what the other person needs, wants, expects, which decreases resentment.
It’s easier to reach personal and professional goals because you have the mental and physical support from the people that love you.
You have more time to do the things you need to recharge.
More time for fun, laugh and play.
You are more present for your work and with family.
When you know where you are going, it’s easier to pivot when changes arise.
Increased energy because efforts are focused on desired outcomes.
Most of all, being focused and clear can build a more harmonious marriage and family life. In my opinion, it’s the most important thing you should be striving for when you decide to enter a partnership and build a family.
Wishing you Love, Health, and Happiness!
